Parents Parents Determine Everything - 2224 Words

Parents Determine Everything In 1969 the Governor of California Ronald Reagan, signed the first â€Å"no fault† divorce bill (Wilcox). This allowed people to divorce their spouse with no actual reason of why divorce was necessary. After Reagan signed the bill almost every state followed his lead, causing a drastic increase in divorces across America (Wilcox). This means that â€Å"50% of all the children born to married parents today, will experience the divorce of their parents before they are 18 years old†(Children). Parents often decide to go through with a divorce because of their own unhappiness. That in fact beyond most peoples belief is a wise decision. No child should be raised in an unhappy home, and living with two people who no longer†¦show more content†¦Parents correctly communicating with their children post divorce is essential to lowering the amount of negative effects the child will endure. After a divorce some parents are in such a scramble th ey lose sight of their role as a parent. They sometimes become so self indulged that they forget that their children are in need of communication from them (Foulkes-Jamison). On Help Guide, a website that is collaborated with Harvard Medical School they discuss what your child needs to hear after divorce and why they need to hear it (Block et. al.). Many children are under the assumption that they were the reason for their parents divorce. This assumption is often the root to many negative effects (Foulkes-Jamison). Help Guide says to avoid this from happening begin the post-divorce communication process by â€Å"clearing up misunderstandings† (Block et al.) Telling your child why the divorce is taking place can help them realize that they are not the cause of the tragic event. Help Guide stresses that as the parent you must not only be patient but reassuring to confirm that your child knows they are not the reason for the divorce (Block et al.). Opposite of the parent that f orgets their child needs communication, there s the parent that over indulges their child with communication (McManus and Donovan, 256). These parents unconsciously often make the mistake of providing the child with too much